Lately, I’ve come to notice a pattern with couples who come into my office: one common theme I keep hearing is that one of the main reasons relationships are suffering is because they’ve evolved into child-centered marriages. Clients share that they feel that since they’ve had children, they’ve become more and more emotionally disconnected from […]
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Most of us, at some point in our lives, go from being childless individuals to becoming parents. This is an incredibly huge transition to go through – one of the biggest we’ll face in our entire lives. It’s true what they say: having a baby changes everything: our bodies, relationships, careers, finances, schedules, and sense […]
Have you ever gotten into an argument with a loved one and gotten so angry you didn’t really hear a word they said? I think we have all been there and it never feels good. While it’s impossible to avoid all conflict, we can actively take steps to repair and learn how to process our […]
We’ve all been there – angry, frustrated, hurt or misunderstood – trying to communicate a concern or issue to our partners only to find the discussion gets so far off track and escalates to a point that we aren’t even sure we know how we got there. It’s crazy, right? John Gottman, a leading researcher […]
We’ve all been there – wounded and reeling after being mistreated by someone in our lives. No one is immune to being wronged; it happens in every relationship, sometimes intentional, often not. When people walk into my office, they often bring up painful memories of injustices and times when they’ve felt wronged by the people […]
Apologizing: I think it’s safe to say that we all agree it’s a good thing. We know we need to do it when we’re wrong – we value “saying sorry” as the “right” thing to do. Actually putting it into practice? That is a whole other story. Why is that? For starters, I think the […]
Your partner having an affair is a painful experience of betrayal. The road to repair is often long, emotionally draining, fraught with ups and downs, but can ultimately lead to healing. Often times, one of the first questions we hear a hurt partner ask, is “why?” There are many different types of affairs, each with […]
Sometimes it is very clear that your spouse is cheating on you. You find lipstick on his collar, someone tells you they saw her with someone else in a hotel, the unexplainable credit card receipts, or you have that nasty gut feeling and the stories just aren’t lining up. However, there are also times when […]
When the unthinkable happens, how do you respond? The most natural response is to just act on whatever feels good in the moment. There are many responses to discovering that your partner has cheated, and all of them feel valid in the moment. However, in the days and weeks after the discovery, some reactions hinder healing […]
This moment is the worst moment of your life. You have just discovered that your partner, who you love and are devoted to has betrayed you. Your life is immediately turned upside down and you are unsure of what to do, or how you are going to get through the next five minutes much less […]