Today I thought about how proud I am of my husband for working so hard and how sweet it was that he made dinner while I worked late yesterday. Then I wondered, will I remember to tell him that this evening when I get home after a long day? Will I remember to tell him while trying to make dinner and get our baby to bed? Will I remember when I sit down in front of the TV or pick up my phone to check my schedule or look at Facebook? Or will I get sidetracked with life and he will never know that I thought of him today? I know I was thinking about him today, but does he?
We often get so wrapped up in life and daily tasks we forget to communicate our love and appreciation for one another. Even in the most difficult times, we can still experience love and gratitude for our partners. In fact, hard times are when it’s most important to communicate our affection. But how many times does life get in the way of meaningful interactions with our partners? Work, kids, dinner, chores, and whatever is happening on our phones or the TV –all of those things provide a distraction from our most important relationship.
In this age of technology, there’s a lot of hype about apps and their claims to improve your life, but can they really help your relationship? Researchers have found that couples who have a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions to each negative interaction are happier, more stable and at significantly less risk for divorce. Often it’s much easier to focus on the negatives in our relationship and forget to show appreciation for the positives (i.e. “You left your socks on the floor… again!” versus “Thank you for taking such good care of the yard.”) We use reminders for all sorts of things from to-do lists to calendars to when to wake up in the morning. Why not use them in our relationship too? Granted, a relationship app is a simple tool you can use to slightly improve your relationship–it isn’t designed to provide therapy (that’s what you call us)! 🙂
Recently, I reviewed several relationship apps, and I wanted to share my top 5 relationship apps and how they can help your relationship.
30-day relationship challenge
(Android only) – Get a simple and free or inexpensive romantic suggestion each day for 30 days. Don’t like their suggestion? Swap it out for another or create your own!
The 5 Love Languages
(Apple & Android) – Take a short quiz to find out your and your partner’s individual love languages. Are you showing them love the way they want to receive it? Bonus: It includes a 5-week challenge with a new activity or gesture each week to help you reconnect.
Romantic Ideas 500
(Apple) – Some of these romantic ideas may seem a little silly but if you don’t like one, there’s 499 more available with just a swipe!
The Marriage App
(Apple) – Is the Christian faith important to you and your mate? Get daily words of encouragement and scripture along with suggestions for connecting with your partner.
(Apple & Android) – It’s like Yelp for dates! You can upload pictures of your dates and view pictures and suggestions from other couples in your area. Jacksonville doesn’t have a lot of suggestions yet, but adding your own favorite date spots will expand the database. It’s also great for date ideas while traveling!
Bottom line: These apps are not designed to diagnose or treat your or your partner. However, these apps can provide useful and simple reminders to put your mate and your relationship as a priority in life.
If you and your mate are really struggling in your relationship, it might be time to consider therapy. We can provide tools and guidance to improve your relationship. Give us a call at (904) 302-5340, or schedule now online.
Are there other apps or tools you’ve found that are good for your relationship? We’d love to hear your thoughts!