One of the biggest transitions someone can experience in life is going from being childless individuals to becoming a parent. This is an incredibly huge transition to go through. It is true what they say: having a baby changes everything. Our bodies, relationships, careers, finances, schedules, and sense of identity all shift once a baby enters the picture! We experience […]
Have you ever gotten into an argument with a loved one and gotten so angry you didn’t hear a word they said? I think we have all been there and it never feels good. While it’s impossible to avoid all conflict, we can actively take steps to repair and learn how to process our feelings in a way that helps […]
We’ve all been there – angry, frustrated, hurt or misunderstood – trying to communicate a concern or issue to our partners only to find the discussion gets so far off track and escalates to a point that we aren’t even sure we know how we got there. It’s crazy, right? John Gottman, a leading researcher in the field of marriage […]
We’ve all been there – wounded and reeling after being mistreated by someone in our lives. No one is immune to being wrong; it happens in every relationship, sometimes intentionally, often not. When people walk into my office, they often bring up painful memories of injustices and times when they’ve felt wronged by the people they love the most. Inevitably, […]
Apologizing: I think it’s safe to say that we all agree apologizing is a good thing. We know we need to do it when we are wrong – we value “saying sorry” as the “right” thing to do. Putting it into practice and making that apology an effective one… is a whole other story. Why are sincere apologies so hard? […]
Sometimes it is very clear that your spouse is cheating on you: you find lipstick on his collar, someone tells you they saw her with someone else in a hotel, the unexplainable credit card receipts, or you have that nasty gut feeling and the stories just aren’t lining up. There are also times when you wonder if your partner is […]
This moment is the worst moment of your life. You have just discovered that your partner, who you love and are devoted to has betrayed you. Your life is immediately turned upside down and you are unsure of what to do, or how you are going to get through the next five minutes much fewer days, weeks and months to […]
Valentine’s Day is long over. While it’s nice to have a day set aside to celebrate your love for your partner (hey, who doesn’t love a good celebration?), why not celebrate your love every day? There are plenty of ways to honor and celebrate your love daily that doesn’t involve fancy dinners or eating heart-shaped chocolates. Most people make a […]
It seems like we all have a constant flow of chatter happening in our brains. Some positive, some downright negative. Research is clear, the power of how we speak to ourselves is monumental. Our thoughts turn into reality. It is the Law of Attraction at work: “like attracts like.” Studies have found that our self-talk impacts the way we perform […]
It’s easy to get into a rut in your relationship. Before you know it, every weekend revolves around your child’s soccer game, a Netflix movie, and Chinese takeout. Think back to a time when you felt close to your spouse. Chances are, your memory involves some vacation or time away. Researchers have found a strong link between romantic getaways and a […]